there are 2 songs that have 100 beats per minute which is the correct amount for cpr and they are “staying alive” and “another one bites the dust” and if u don’t think that’s the rawest shit you’ve ever heard you can unfollow me right now.
YOU GUYS IT’S DECEMBER 10TH YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THIS HAS BEEN IN MY QUEUE SINCE FEBRUARY
It posits verbal communication as the only valid communication.
Autistic people have had things withheld from us because we could NOT use our words, i.e., respond verbally.
Imagine if you will that you’re a 4 year old who is thirsty and wants a cup of milk. You know where it is, but you’re not capable of getting it yourself. And you have a therapist or teacher or someone that you can ask for it, but you can’t make the words form in your mouth. And that teacher says to you, “use your words” and you CAN’T. Can you imagine how frustrating that is? See, that’s what happens to people like me every day. Even as an adult.
And when you posit verbal communication as the only way to obtain consent, the implications are huge. They are that nonverbal autistic adults are not adults at all, but rather, children. You also imply that consent that is not verbal is not consent after all, so disabled people cannot consent to sex if they can’t verbalize it. On the other hand, you also are saying that disabled people who use nonverbal communication to say “no” won’t have that heard because it’s not a valid denial of consent.
This phrase is wrong. And it needs to die, honestly. Even if there weren’t nonverbal people. Children are often struggling to find the right words to say, so saying “use your words” is just downright frustrating. Even if you think they’re capable of doing so, it’s wrong.
And of course, “use your words” is a phrase that is only ever uttered when it has already been made clear that one is frustrated and does not have the words.
Let’s just say that it’s really condecending to bring it out when the problem is thatI literally can’t use my words!